Dear Professor seX,
I've always struggled with my weight and body image, and I feel like it's affecting my relationship. When I first starting dating my boyfriend, I was probably in the best shape of my life. But lately, because of my crazy work schedule and some less than healthy eating decisions, I've packed on some pounds. He says he doesn't care, but our sex life is definitely less vigorous and my confidence levels are shot. Any advice?
First of all, I'm sure you’re hardly as full-bodied as your namesake, but you raise some points that I bet a lot of my readers can relate to. Our bodies change throughout our lives, and if you're in a long-term relationship, you may have times when you are more attracted to your partner's body than other times. Similarly, your sex life will ebb and flow and you'll have to ride the waves over the course of your relationship. This could just be one of those low times, but there are things you can do to help spice things up and make sex more enjoyable. Physical fitness can help increase your libido, and your self-confidence, and is a key component of an overall healthy lifestyle.
Performing physical activities with your partner and cooking healthy recipes together are great ways to encourage each other to stay in shape and strengthen your bond. I know it can be hard fitting physical fitness into an already busy schedule, but if it helps you to be healthier and feel better about yourself, it will be worth the effort.
Hope this helps, and make sure to consult your physician before starting any new exercise programs if you haven't exercised in some time and have any health issues or concerns.
In good health,